Promises-What Are They?

Good afternoon, my lovely kittens.  We need to talk.  So pour yourself some tea and get cozy.  This one has the potential to be long.

What are promises?
 Promises are statements that you say. Statement that you remain true to. They are oaths that you make. When you make a promise, you are expected to keep that promise.  when you make a promise to someone, no matter who that person is, or what the promise is, you should try to go out of your way to keep that promise.  That means that if you are at a sleepover with your friends, and they ask you questions about who's dating who, what's the hot new topic, etc., if you promised someone else that you wouldn't tell anyone else what they told you, then you don't say anything about it.

Pie-crust Promises
As Mary Poppins says, pie-crust promises are easily made, easily broken.  Don't make pie-crust promises.  You never know, the person you made the pie-crust promise to could get super-duper disappointed.  Scenario time!  What if you had a suicidal friend, and you were the only thing keeping them from, ah, committing suicide, and you promised to always be there for them.  That's a pie-crust promise.  If you are out partying, or at graduation, or at some once-in-a-life-time event, and the suicidal person needed you, unless you were a very dedicated best friend, you wouldn't be able to be there for them, and you might end up attending you're friend's funeral the next week.  So, as you can see from this scenario, it's pretty much never a good thing to make pie-crust promises.

False Promises
There are many definitions of false promises.  Mostly, they say the same thing, more or less.  One way that I like to put it is: A promise you don't intend to keep.  In this definition, the promise is usually to get the person to trust you enough to either tell you a secret, or stop nagging you about something, or something else like that.  False promises revolve around building up trust.  The only way I would find a false promise acceptable is if it was a literal life-or-death matter, or dealt with medical emergencies.  Like, if your friend and you are playing around at a park, and your friend gets into some poison ivy/oak, or your friend gets cut badly, or gets cut at all, or falls and hits his or her head, or something else like that, and they ask you not to tell, you would promise not too.  This is a false promise because you intend on telling a responsible adult.  This is fine, because you are concerned for your friend's health.  Or, false promises are also acceptable if you do something with a friend that you know could get you in big trouble and promise not to tell, or your friend does something that could get them in big trouble and you promise not to tell.  Like consuming drugs or alcohol.  In this case, telling a responsible adult is fine.  Again, it deals with health.  See a pattern?  Here's your rule of thumb:  If the false promise is about someone else's health and you are truly worried or concerned, the false promise is acceptable.

And that concludes my talk about promises.  Please, take this into consideration.  Next time someone spills the secret they promised not to spill, think about how it feels.  Would you want to bring the same feeling of betrayal to someone else?

Arevoi, kittens.  Until you read again....

School, Vol.1

Hello, my advice-loving-kittens!  I have no idea what the subject for today is.  Yes, the time has come that I am totally clueless.  Well, actually, I have an idea.  School.  The overall subject of school.  So, since the school-year is quickly closing in upon us, or is already hear for some, we shall explore school, its good and bad points, the fairness, respect...maybe I should do more than one post on this.  Make it a series.  Yes, I like that idea.  So, this post shall be about school, and generally how some things work, from a student's eyes.  And the rest of the series wall pertain to the Golden Rules.  Now, let's begin, shall we?

The first day.  The day that everyone dreads.  The day that you have to wake up early after sleeping in so long.  The day that we all get lost.  The day we ask for directions.  The day we establish our place in the classroom.  I could go on forever-but I have a job to do.  The good and bad points shall be explored!

The good things first.  You get to see old friends that you haven't seen since before summer vacation.  You meet all your teachers.  You don't get tons of homework...well, it really depends on the teacher.  You can set up your locker.  You find your seat.  You take a shower before noon, if you shower in the morning, that is.  And there are many more.  You only have to discover them for yourself, when you get to school.

And now, the bad points.  You get lost.  You look like an idiot, because you have to take your schedule and/or map out every five seconds, then look around, trying to tell where you are.  You have to stumble around, lost, because you are too shy to ask where to go.  For some, embarrassing introductions are made in front of the whole class.  You find out which teachers are mean-the hard way.  You may end up with loads of homework.  You get trampled by older students on your way to the lunchroom.  You find out that there is no recess in this grade.  You are not allowed to go barefoot.  Your mom forgot that you are vegan, and you don't have any money in your lunch account.  Of course, everything is different for different people, and there are loads more reasons for you to find out, even though I will keep my fingers and toes crossed that you don't have to come across them.

And that is all.  Please, tell me in the comment section if I should put the Golden Rules you find to be most useful in school as more than one volume.  I don't feel like putting them in here, because, as a cat, I'm lazy.  No, I am not a super hyper kitten.  I'm a cat.  Or would be, if God had had other (more preferable) plans.  But, humanity does have its perks.  Oh, listen to me, going off topic.  I must bid you all farewell now, before I start talking about my own experiences with bowling.   Farewell, my advice-kittens, and have a good time in school!  Oh, and don't let others get in the way of being you!

Let's talk about trust...

Salutations, dear advice seekers.  Yes, I know I am not supposed to be blogging on here for a while, and, to be honest, I don't think my mom wants me to ever post on here, but my friend needs my help.  I was reading her blog just now, and it sounds to me like she has no idea who to trust.  This is where I step in.

So, let's talk about trust.  What is trust?  It is when you feel as if you could rely on someone for anything, and when you believe in them.  But how can you know who to trust?  That is entirely up to you.  But, I know that you are probably expecting some sort of guidance.  I can give you just that, but I cannot tell you what to do or who to trust.

That little voice.  Yep, voices.  Well, they aren't actually voices.  More like your inner sense of right and wrong.  Your subconscious thoughts and urges.  Your intuition.  There are many names for this "voice".  But you can usually trust this voice to know what is good and what is not.  If you don't even trust your own subconscious, then you have trust issues in my book.

Your friends.  If you don't trust your friends, that is sometimes understandable.  If you don't trust your closest friends, those friends that you feel is more like your sister or brother than a friend, then wow.  There should be at least one person, other than a family member, that you can trust enough to leave your fate in their hands.  That is how I feel trust wise about Blue Heart.  I would trust her with my life.

Your family.  These people have your blood, or you have their blood.  or they are related by marriage.  Either way, they are your family.  Immediate or not.  And in my opinion, it is okay to have doubts about trust with them.  But if you were to say that you have absolutely no trust in them whatsoever, then I would say something like, "What is wrong with you?"  Families are built on trust and love.  And if there is no trust, then how can you really love them, like how God wants?

So, those are the people you should trust.  But, back to that little guy in your head.  You should pay attention to him.  Always.  I'm talking life or death situations.  If you trust the wrong people, you could end up physically or mentally hurt.  Heartbroken included.

So, my clueless friend, who's identity shall remain hidden unless the person wishes to reveal their self, did I help?

I love you all.  Farewell for now, my help-hunters!

Goodbye (for now)

Yep, I'm leaving you stranded *sob*.  Not my own doing, of course.  Blame my mom.  She says that... um, I think there is a post on one of my blogs that says what she said, so ya.  But i'm only deserting you for a little bit, my kittens!  Only for a few months, maybe years...

Goodbye for now, my little readers!

This blog will still be open, though, so you can still visit and leave comments (hint, hint)!!!  I will be looking at your comments here, but all the action will be on my life blog for now...

Until the future, my beautiful advice seekers, and know I love you all...

When you have a noisy being causing you to become deaf, don't try to be louder to shush it...

You heard me.  When you have a noisy kitten mewling at the top of her lungs, you don't have to yowl, "SHUT UP!"  That would be like trying to put out a flaming bush by compressing it with a flaming tree.  Not going to work.  Most likely, that will result in a forest fire, which could have been avoided if you had just put out the bush with cold water or snow.  In other words, give that kitten a cold shoulder!  Well, okay, if you  are dealing with an emotionally fragile kitten, a cold shoulder would be a little harsh.  Just ignore her instead.  Eventually, she will get a sore throat and be forced to stop or will get yelled at by someone who has authority over her, such as her mother, father, or owner.

So, what have we learned?  If you said something along the lines of, "Give the noisy being next to you the silent treatment until they shut up," you are correct.  If you said something along the lines of, "Pay attention to the poor adorable angel who is yearning for your attention so that she will not cry out for your attention," I have two things to say to you.  1- Read the post again, for you seem to have gained the OPPOSITE advice from it, and 2- you are redundant and need to go talk to your English teacher about proper grammar.  Oh, and 3- if you follow your terribly misguided advice, you will find that you are just spoiling the young organism and they will keep annoying you because you react to them and therefore show signs of an entertaining playmate, which is probably the worst possible thing that could happen if you are like me.

Yes, all you parents out there, this might be a little harsh for A CERTAIN FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD, but if you were in my shoes and had the same thought patterns as I do, you would certainly follow this advice.  Thank you for listening and hopefully paying attention.  Now go read a good book and work on your redundant-ness!

Don't play pranks unless you don't want to be believed...

Don't play pranks unless you don't want to be believed, because when you play pranks and tell people false things, well, if you've the boy who cried wolf story, you know what happens. No one will believe you when you tell the truth.

In a cat's words, when you say the mice are out and being dumb and are easy to catch, and all the neighborhood cats go looking for these mice to find that there aren't any, they won't be happy. And, when the mice actually are being dumb and easy to catch, no one will believe you. It will also happen with the birds, rabbits, and other yummy animals you may come across. Right now, you may be thinking, "Well, I get all of those tasty little morsels." In reality, you don't get them, because when all the neighborhood cats are hungry in the middle of winter and you have a large stock of mice, rabbits, birds, etc., your house becomes the local food pantry for everyone. They still won't believe you; they will just think you're a spoiled brat because your owner buys you all of those animals on a golden platter.

So, you should now be convinced that you should not play pranks like this, or any other potentially hurtful pranks. And, in closing, remember to never let someone else control you, because it's your life, and no one should cramp your style!

Don't be someone you aren't...

Don't be someone you aren't, because then you wouldn't exist. If you get stripped of who you are, what you are made of, the essence of your being, you become nothing, be cause you are not you any longer.
So, imagine that you are a cat, completely unique, and someone pulls off your fur, then wipes that twinkle out of your eye, or the snarl off your face (please don't snarl), then gets rid of your lean body and long, thin tail. You would be nothing, because you are not you.
Who we are (personality, strength, favorites, etc.) is the one thing that makes us, well, us. Without that, we would not be in existence anymore, because we wouldn't be us. We would be modeled after a completely different person.
Back to the cat picture. So that mean person takes the nothingness that is you, and gives you the features, IQ, attitude, and personality of a completely different cat. Long, fluffy fur, fat and slow, sticky sweet expressions. Now, are you really you anymore? No! You are a completely different cat. And the old you? Gone, extinct, ZAP! No more twinkling eyes, lean, agile body, rough and tumble personality.
So, what we have learned is that you should never be someone else because you would not exist anymore.

Remember, your life is your own, and no one should be crushing your dreams (or awesome shower voice), so speak up! I will be happy to help.

If you aren't getting what you want, don't start begging...

If you aren't getting what you want, don't beg, just wait and see if the person changes their mind the next day, and if not, you are probably out of luck. But if you want to keep hoping, you can check back the next day, and the next day, and the next day, and the next day... Okay, maybe not so much. But my point is, don't beg.

If you are not satisfied with your food, don't go and beg for the people food, just suck it up, and try to enjoy it. Remember, you could be stray, starving and sick. Be thankful for what you have. And who knows? Maybe your people decide to reward your honorable self-control and buy better food!

This situation is not limited to just cat food, it covers a wide range of things where begging seems the easiest thing to do. It might seem like it will change their mind (or make them give it to you to make you shut up), but you will most likely be put off the table and yelled at.

Remember, you should rule your own life, but not completely. Good rule of thumb: If you are being worked like a slave, you should speak up. If you are doing chores, pipe down. Hopefully this helped you in some way. I will get back to napping and grooming now. If any of you need help, don't hesitate to ask the cat.

When someone swats your tail, stop twitching it...

If someone is antagonizing you, or being mean to you, or picking a fight with you, stop giving them something to cause trouble with. Think of it this way: if you are a cat, enjoying your day, and this kitten comes along and starts attacking your tail, you are probably twitching it/moving it in some way, shape, or form. So stop giving that kitten something interesting to cause trouble with!

If you don't know why the person is doing this, try to ask them why they are causing trouble, and either fix it if you want to do that and let others control your life, or tell them to accept you as you are and STOP!

I hope this little tidbit has helped you in some way. If you are having a specific problem, go ahead and leave me a comment on what it is, and I will try to help. Remember, this is a strict positive-only blog, so if you have nothing good to say, don't say it. Helpful criticism only, please (so to make that less confuzzling, you can criticize only if it is nice(i love your help, but maybe you could say more about the problem vs. your help needs to say more about the problem, 'cuz I don't understand what you are reffering to at all).)

Your life is your life, so don't let others get in the way of your personal way of living!

When someone greets you, greet them back...

Hello readers! This a new blog of mine, where i post advice on life, from a cats point of view. I hope everyone finds this interesting. I am still working on the set up for this new addition, so if you visit often, you may see a different font, or background, or color scheme each time. If you are interested in how this works, i will have life advice in cat form as the title of each post, then i will explain what i mean in the actual post. If you desire regular information, visit my other blog, Butter Beer and Other Good Things. Please comment, pay attention, and above all, enjoy!