Organizing

Good evening, my marshmallows, and happy March.  I figured that it's high time for me to do a post about organizing.  One of my weak points.  It's not that I can't organize, because I can, it's that I can't stay organized.  And hopefully I can help my fellow organizationally disabled humans out there.

Define being organized.
You know me.  I need to define the topic.  I would say being organized means that you are neat, and you know where everything is.  You put everything in it's proper place.  And that's a good thing.  I envy you.

What do I need to do?
If you are unorganized, organize yourself.  Tell yourself, "Hey.  Get it together."  Chances are, if you're unorganized, you aren't doing well.  In school, for example, sometimes, if you're not organized, you loose things, and then when you loose things, you can't turn them in, or you can't do them.  You have to be organized and you have to have your head on straight if you want to do well.  This goes for things like your closet, too.  So get off your butt and clean up your mess.

Why am I not organized?
A lot of times, of you are a procrastinator, or if you are lazy, you are also unorganized.  Everything about being proactive pretty much screams, "Hey!  Look at my checklists and schedules!"  Okay, not really.  But it's hard to get your game on if your game is underneath the pile of gym socks you keep putting off taking home.

So...you're insulting me?
I'm not calling you lazy in a bad way, I'm saying that you need to start doing things instead of putting them off because you need to finish just one more level in your Mario game.  Like me.  I'm a lazy person.  I don't go around insulting fellow lazy-ers.  If I do, then the person is a friend that knows I am just joking without me having to explain to them that I'm joking.  Even if we both agree that it's true.

How am I supposed to organize?
Well, for starters, you need time.  Sit down and go through everything.  Take everything out so that you can clean it all up.  If something doesn't have a place, make a place for it.  Don't just shove it under your bed.  Whether you are organizing your bedroom or organizing your schoolbag, plan it out.  Take it one bit at a time.  Start with one section, and then when that's done, move on to the next section.  Before you know it, you'll be done.

But I'm lazy!
So am I.  I'm glad you accept that fact.  It makes life so much easier to know why that one thing never got done, rather that wonder for the rest of all eternity.  But I'm lazy, and I know it.  I mostly rely on friends and family to make me do productive things.  And then I rush to get it done.  But sometimes, I just yell at myself that I need to get off the couch and go do that thing.  Or, it gets to the point that I can't stand it anymore and I take care of it.

In conclusion...
You choose to be organized.  Make the right choice, and quit being lazy.  There is no such thing as lazy by nature.  I found a wallpaper once that said something like, "Genius by birth, slacker by choice" and I think it's true.  It may be the human, sinful nature to be a lazy sack of bones, but we have a choice to try and be better.  We have the choice to try and shoot for the moon.  Even if you don't make it, at least you land among the stars.  So go get yourself a checklist and tell yourself that you will do these things before the week runs out.  Organizing better be on that list.

How to Relax?!

Hello my kittens.  I have been feeling a little strained lately.  I can't seem to relax for the life of me.  I figured, Hey?  Why not put a new post on my blog?  And this is where that brings me.  I will attempt to work out how to relax here.

What is relaxation? 
I like to define relaxation as being totally calm and unwound, without stress or worry.  It's just how to get relaxed that I need help with.

How am I supposed to get rid of my stress? 
I can honestly say that I have no idea.  Every person is different.  Personally, I find that clearing my mental to do list helps a lot.  If I have nothing to do, I don't have any stress.  Especially if I'm not looking forward to/regretting/not looking forward to anything.  (This is also a weakness because I am a procrastinator...)  Also, listening to music or writing works pretty well with me.

Life is to hectic to relax and unwind.
If you apply to this, I'm sorry.  Why is your life so hectic?  Sport practice on top of music lessons on top of homework on top of little to no free time?  I have pretty much nothing on my after school agenda, except for an after school writing club that meets every other Tuesday.  But I know a few friends have way too much piled into the after school time.  One of my friends has/had piano lessons, show choir for school, and dance.

What if I don't have school to deal with and a pretty empty schedule?
You're very lucky.  Depending on your job/responsibilities, you probably have a lot of time to relax.  Music, reading, writing, napping, or watching a movie might work.  That's how I spend most Saturdays.

None of this helps me relax.
Experiment.  Try combinations of these things or maybe something totally different.  Like running or yoga.  Who knows what works?

You are an individual, and individual means that you are unique.  Maybe some will be glad for my advice, maybe some will think it a waste of time.  Just know that I have good intentions.  Now if you will excuse me, I have to go follow my own advice!

Promises-What Are They?

Good afternoon, my lovely kittens.  We need to talk.  So pour yourself some tea and get cozy.  This one has the potential to be long.

What are promises?
 Promises are statements that you say. Statement that you remain true to. They are oaths that you make. When you make a promise, you are expected to keep that promise.  when you make a promise to someone, no matter who that person is, or what the promise is, you should try to go out of your way to keep that promise.  That means that if you are at a sleepover with your friends, and they ask you questions about who's dating who, what's the hot new topic, etc., if you promised someone else that you wouldn't tell anyone else what they told you, then you don't say anything about it.

Pie-crust Promises
As Mary Poppins says, pie-crust promises are easily made, easily broken.  Don't make pie-crust promises.  You never know, the person you made the pie-crust promise to could get super-duper disappointed.  Scenario time!  What if you had a suicidal friend, and you were the only thing keeping them from, ah, committing suicide, and you promised to always be there for them.  That's a pie-crust promise.  If you are out partying, or at graduation, or at some once-in-a-life-time event, and the suicidal person needed you, unless you were a very dedicated best friend, you wouldn't be able to be there for them, and you might end up attending you're friend's funeral the next week.  So, as you can see from this scenario, it's pretty much never a good thing to make pie-crust promises.

False Promises
There are many definitions of false promises.  Mostly, they say the same thing, more or less.  One way that I like to put it is: A promise you don't intend to keep.  In this definition, the promise is usually to get the person to trust you enough to either tell you a secret, or stop nagging you about something, or something else like that.  False promises revolve around building up trust.  The only way I would find a false promise acceptable is if it was a literal life-or-death matter, or dealt with medical emergencies.  Like, if your friend and you are playing around at a park, and your friend gets into some poison ivy/oak, or your friend gets cut badly, or gets cut at all, or falls and hits his or her head, or something else like that, and they ask you not to tell, you would promise not too.  This is a false promise because you intend on telling a responsible adult.  This is fine, because you are concerned for your friend's health.  Or, false promises are also acceptable if you do something with a friend that you know could get you in big trouble and promise not to tell, or your friend does something that could get them in big trouble and you promise not to tell.  Like consuming drugs or alcohol.  In this case, telling a responsible adult is fine.  Again, it deals with health.  See a pattern?  Here's your rule of thumb:  If the false promise is about someone else's health and you are truly worried or concerned, the false promise is acceptable.

And that concludes my talk about promises.  Please, take this into consideration.  Next time someone spills the secret they promised not to spill, think about how it feels.  Would you want to bring the same feeling of betrayal to someone else?

Arevoi, kittens.  Until you read again....

School, Vol.1

Hello, my advice-loving-kittens!  I have no idea what the subject for today is.  Yes, the time has come that I am totally clueless.  Well, actually, I have an idea.  School.  The overall subject of school.  So, since the school-year is quickly closing in upon us, or is already hear for some, we shall explore school, its good and bad points, the fairness, respect...maybe I should do more than one post on this.  Make it a series.  Yes, I like that idea.  So, this post shall be about school, and generally how some things work, from a student's eyes.  And the rest of the series wall pertain to the Golden Rules.  Now, let's begin, shall we?

The first day.  The day that everyone dreads.  The day that you have to wake up early after sleeping in so long.  The day that we all get lost.  The day we ask for directions.  The day we establish our place in the classroom.  I could go on forever-but I have a job to do.  The good and bad points shall be explored!

The good things first.  You get to see old friends that you haven't seen since before summer vacation.  You meet all your teachers.  You don't get tons of homework...well, it really depends on the teacher.  You can set up your locker.  You find your seat.  You take a shower before noon, if you shower in the morning, that is.  And there are many more.  You only have to discover them for yourself, when you get to school.

And now, the bad points.  You get lost.  You look like an idiot, because you have to take your schedule and/or map out every five seconds, then look around, trying to tell where you are.  You have to stumble around, lost, because you are too shy to ask where to go.  For some, embarrassing introductions are made in front of the whole class.  You find out which teachers are mean-the hard way.  You may end up with loads of homework.  You get trampled by older students on your way to the lunchroom.  You find out that there is no recess in this grade.  You are not allowed to go barefoot.  Your mom forgot that you are vegan, and you don't have any money in your lunch account.  Of course, everything is different for different people, and there are loads more reasons for you to find out, even though I will keep my fingers and toes crossed that you don't have to come across them.

And that is all.  Please, tell me in the comment section if I should put the Golden Rules you find to be most useful in school as more than one volume.  I don't feel like putting them in here, because, as a cat, I'm lazy.  No, I am not a super hyper kitten.  I'm a cat.  Or would be, if God had had other (more preferable) plans.  But, humanity does have its perks.  Oh, listen to me, going off topic.  I must bid you all farewell now, before I start talking about my own experiences with bowling.   Farewell, my advice-kittens, and have a good time in school!  Oh, and don't let others get in the way of being you!

Let's talk about trust...

Salutations, dear advice seekers.  Yes, I know I am not supposed to be blogging on here for a while, and, to be honest, I don't think my mom wants me to ever post on here, but my friend needs my help.  I was reading her blog just now, and it sounds to me like she has no idea who to trust.  This is where I step in.

So, let's talk about trust.  What is trust?  It is when you feel as if you could rely on someone for anything, and when you believe in them.  But how can you know who to trust?  That is entirely up to you.  But, I know that you are probably expecting some sort of guidance.  I can give you just that, but I cannot tell you what to do or who to trust.

That little voice.  Yep, voices.  Well, they aren't actually voices.  More like your inner sense of right and wrong.  Your subconscious thoughts and urges.  Your intuition.  There are many names for this "voice".  But you can usually trust this voice to know what is good and what is not.  If you don't even trust your own subconscious, then you have trust issues in my book.

Your friends.  If you don't trust your friends, that is sometimes understandable.  If you don't trust your closest friends, those friends that you feel is more like your sister or brother than a friend, then wow.  There should be at least one person, other than a family member, that you can trust enough to leave your fate in their hands.  That is how I feel trust wise about Blue Heart.  I would trust her with my life.

Your family.  These people have your blood, or you have their blood.  or they are related by marriage.  Either way, they are your family.  Immediate or not.  And in my opinion, it is okay to have doubts about trust with them.  But if you were to say that you have absolutely no trust in them whatsoever, then I would say something like, "What is wrong with you?"  Families are built on trust and love.  And if there is no trust, then how can you really love them, like how God wants?

So, those are the people you should trust.  But, back to that little guy in your head.  You should pay attention to him.  Always.  I'm talking life or death situations.  If you trust the wrong people, you could end up physically or mentally hurt.  Heartbroken included.

So, my clueless friend, who's identity shall remain hidden unless the person wishes to reveal their self, did I help?

I love you all.  Farewell for now, my help-hunters!

Goodbye (for now)

Yep, I'm leaving you stranded *sob*.  Not my own doing, of course.  Blame my mom.  She says that... um, I think there is a post on one of my blogs that says what she said, so ya.  But i'm only deserting you for a little bit, my kittens!  Only for a few months, maybe years...

Goodbye for now, my little readers!

This blog will still be open, though, so you can still visit and leave comments (hint, hint)!!!  I will be looking at your comments here, but all the action will be on my life blog for now...

Until the future, my beautiful advice seekers, and know I love you all...

When you have a noisy being causing you to become deaf, don't try to be louder to shush it...

You heard me.  When you have a noisy kitten mewling at the top of her lungs, you don't have to yowl, "SHUT UP!"  That would be like trying to put out a flaming bush by compressing it with a flaming tree.  Not going to work.  Most likely, that will result in a forest fire, which could have been avoided if you had just put out the bush with cold water or snow.  In other words, give that kitten a cold shoulder!  Well, okay, if you  are dealing with an emotionally fragile kitten, a cold shoulder would be a little harsh.  Just ignore her instead.  Eventually, she will get a sore throat and be forced to stop or will get yelled at by someone who has authority over her, such as her mother, father, or owner.

So, what have we learned?  If you said something along the lines of, "Give the noisy being next to you the silent treatment until they shut up," you are correct.  If you said something along the lines of, "Pay attention to the poor adorable angel who is yearning for your attention so that she will not cry out for your attention," I have two things to say to you.  1- Read the post again, for you seem to have gained the OPPOSITE advice from it, and 2- you are redundant and need to go talk to your English teacher about proper grammar.  Oh, and 3- if you follow your terribly misguided advice, you will find that you are just spoiling the young organism and they will keep annoying you because you react to them and therefore show signs of an entertaining playmate, which is probably the worst possible thing that could happen if you are like me.

Yes, all you parents out there, this might be a little harsh for A CERTAIN FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD, but if you were in my shoes and had the same thought patterns as I do, you would certainly follow this advice.  Thank you for listening and hopefully paying attention.  Now go read a good book and work on your redundant-ness!